— by Seraphina Delysiae on Facebook
As we approach another amazing event, let’s start a conversation about consent. We are a loud and lusty bunch, which is wonderful, and brings in the necessity of being really clear about what you want and what you don’t want so everyone has a fun time. The goal is for people to have positive experiences with touch, kissing and all those other lascivious acts. We want people to feel good about what they do, be comfortable expressing their desires to each other, and wanting to keep coming back with enthusiasm. How do we make this happen? Learning how to ask well and respond well before we jump in hands first.
The only way we know if someone is really into something is if we ask. When you are wanting to snuggle up with someone around the campfire ask them if they want that too. No is ok. Yes is ok. Be ready to receive and respect the answer you get. When we do that the awkwardness and worry of doing something wrong relaxes and the more likely we are to get an outcome where everyone is ok. Brush up on your medieval silver tongue and get clever. Or be short and sweet. Whatever feels right to you. Asking is the important part, before you give that big warm hug, nibble on the neck, or invite someone to keep you warm under the covers. When someone asks to join the cuddle party, be enthusiastic, confident, and clear in your ‘Yes’ and ‘No’. Crystal clear clarity is the responsibility of all! It takes a Kingdom to have an extra excellent time.
No is ok. Yes is ok.
Consent is always an ongoing conversation. We encourage you to spread the good word! And we are going to introduce a juicy game where we can play with consent, and show how fun and simple it can be. Bravery and I will be teaching a workshop on consent and the Cloven Fruit Game Thursday evening at 8pm. Come, learn to ask and receive with grace with a game of freshened breath and given kisses.